To Feel: – Joy/Laughter

It is said that laughter is the best medicine in the world.  I believe this.

Often when I am overwhelmed by life’s trials and tribulations something will strike me as hilarious and I will laugh, unable to stop.  It may be the silliest movie – once I watched There’s Something About Mary – and couldn’t stop laughing.  It was at a depressing point in my life and lightened my mood considerably.  Since then I have tried to watch it again – and just find it silly, not funny.

Once a joke I heard created the feeling of ‘ultimate silly’ jokes.  What did Tarzan say when he saw the elephants coming?  – Here come the elephants.  People looked at me like I was crazy when I couldn’t stop laughing.  But to me – it was the ultimate in the stupidity of jokes.  What else would he say? How much more simple can a complex question be?

I have used laughter to combat depressing, overwhelming and even moments of grief. Once I lost a brother.  Another brother told jokes and kept me laughing until I was crying.  Some didn’t think it was proper behavior.  But my mother said ‘Everyone handles grief in their own way’.  My mother was grieving the loss of a child, something no one should have to experience but she didn’t forget her other children.  Now, I often grieve for my mother and remember her wise words of wisdom.

For me it is truly one of the best medicines I have at my disposal and it’s always free.  Some people in these days of political correctness and rules or regulations that someone has determined are not proper behavior might not see this my way.  To laugh, when you’re grieving is not acceptable, but it has worked for me.  Whenever I fear for my sanity I often find something funny.  When I am overwhelmed and again fear I might even have a heart-attack, I find something amusing.  I definitely find amusement often in those rules or regulations as well.  It can relieve frustration and disbelief quite well.

I worked in offices in the past.  Many times some man would make a remark to me that would be considered ‘sexual harassment’ now but instead I laughed, with humor and cynicism combined. I found the majority of those men became friends. I never felt threatened.  I never reported them.

Don’t take life so seriously.  Find time to laugh and in my case, find time to see the ridiculous in overwhelming situations that arise.  I can’t summon amusement, but it’s always there when I need it.