Life Changing Days – Alone not Lonely

Perhaps one of the most important things my parents taught is the ability to be alone without feeling lonely.  These lessons were rarely just told to us, they were lessons that were just done. If I wanted to be alone – I could.  If I wanted company it was always available.

Mom and Dad

Mom and Dad

I imagine many times my mom especially hoped for some ‘space’ of her own.  Dad at least got to go out into the fields, working the land – alone. Mom always had kids around, even when we were mostly all going to school.  The kids got alone time – and I especially got it whenever my chores were done.  I learned to love alone time.

My alone time was either hiding (in an empty room) – my writing and crafts I continually did whenever an idea popped in my mind (usually when it was too cold outside) or riding my horse across endless amounts of prairies, sloughs and hills.  Wind against my face chases all my concerns away, if only for a time.  My dreaming is only halted by the limits my imagination – and never my imagination rarely lacks ideas.

The Red Stallion


From what I see in today’s society – this freedom for a child, is rarely available.  All activities are monitored very closely I see.  I cry for those who will never experience being alone as a child.

2 thoughts on “Life Changing Days – Alone not Lonely

  1. You’ll be happy to know that as a parent of younger children I’ve noticed a trend where parents have less activities for their children after school and in fact teachers now recommend that we give our young children a chance to play make-believe. It is recognised that imagination play has a place in a child’s development.

    • I’m happy to hear that – and hopefully it’s not just computers and games or TV. My little grand-daughter has a great imagination at 2 and I don’t think it should be stifled in any way. She thinks she’s alone – as I work on my computer or something and watch her out of the corner of my eye to see what she will come up with next. It’s fascinating.

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