How much attention do you need in a relationship? That is a question everyone should ask themselves – especially when their partner’s work requires so much alone time.
I married a truck-driver. His hours, even now are long. Often he isn’t here. When the children were young I was required to handle all their appointments and activities mainly by myself. Often I had to work as well to help financially.
He was a great father and took the kids whenever he was home. Now he does that with our grandson and is his ‘best buddy’. On Father’s Day I asked my grandson what made poppa special. He replied – ‘because he makes me happy when I am sad’. My grandson is only six and I felt it was a great compliment.
Instead of getting angry and upset because he worked so much – I started seriously learning my writing skills as the children went to school and got older. Truck drivers have a phenomenal rate of divorce according to statistics. To marry a person who isn’t often there is a skill of learning to like yourself and do your specific activities for you. It is a balancing act that requires some skill and thought, but if you can deal with being alone often and concentrate on ‘quality’ it can be a long and happy relationship.
Instead of concentrating on the amount of time required more thought should be put into ‘quality’ – not ‘quantity’. Reality is people are required to work to be independent and look after their family.